THE POWER OF: Personal Values

Personal values play a vital role in shaping our identity and the ways in which we communicate. From the moment we are born we begin absorbing and creating views about our world, subconsciously priming and forming our personal values and beliefs based on what we perceive to be good by influence of our families and core caregivers. Our values interact with ourselves and others, via the actions, words, thoughts, feelings and beliefs that we participate.

Why is it critical to know what you value?

Giving serious consideration about what your values are is a choice to be mindful and intentional as opposed to negligent and absent-minded. Personal values serve as both an conscious and unconscious guide for everything we think, feel, do, believe, sense and express. Whether we have been deliberate and conscious about selecting a particular set of values or not, our values continue to prime our way of being in each moment.

Why are personal values important for conscious being?

Without giving conscious consideration to our values we then operate according to a way of previously conditioned perceptions and interpretations of what we have decided to be good, right and important. They stem from the basis of a unique collection of experience and influence from others which we then subconsciously absorb to be our guide.

What are personal values?

Personal values inform what you will do and what you will not do; what you will accept and what you will not accept. They are often grouped with terms like principles, standards, morals or a certain code of conduct.

The dictionary definition of value – a person’s principles or standards of behaviour; one’s judgment of what is important in life.” – points to these other terms for its definition and misses the mark about what a value is at it’s essence.

Personal values go deep and guide more than just the surface value of real values. They guide our thoughts, words, feelings, beliefs and actions. They guide the meaning that we attach and assign to an experience, as well as the state of our consciousness. So then, what are personal values? You know, that deeper definition, at origin and in essence. One that we sense at gut level, in our heart, and at the core and root of our being.

Personal values are something I consider to be fundamental priming forces that help us make sense of the choices we make and serve as a guide when making decisions for what is ultimately right in that moment.

What is the essence of personal values?

To bring light to the essence of personal values consider these 9 keys about the role and function of personal values in our life:

  1. Values are guides along the path of life. (Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose)
  2. Values serve as pointers to a way of conscious being. (Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose)
  3. Values are priming forces that help us make sense of what is ultimately right.
  4. Values are personally and socially contagious.
  5. Values are fundamental aspects in defining the nature of our identity.
  6. Values shape our lives at a cellular level.
  7. Values point to something of particular importance and meaning.
  8. Values are essential filters that we choose.
  9. Values are fragments of virtues.

The essence here is that a value gives way to an opening for a certain state of being.

I believe it is absolutely necessary that we be conscious and deliberate about the values we choose and about how we nourish and deepen a healthy relationship with our values. Ultimately, our personal values serve through our lives, they impact our world internally and externally, whether we have been deliberate and conscious about selecting them or not. If they have been considered and chosen before, are they current and familiar with relevant meaning or old and antiquated lacking clarity? What are your personal values?


 

Recap:

What are personal values?

“Personal values are fundamental priming forces that help us make sense of the choices we make and serve as a guide when making decisions for what is ultimately right in that moment.”

– Simon Asmus

Contemplation:

  • Have you given conscious attention and consideration about your personal values?
  • In any given experience or situation, reflect by asking: What does this mean to me?
  • There may be patterns or clues here that give light to a particular value.

Questions:

  • What are your personal values?
  • What matters to you?
  • What matters most?
  • What matters most to you in your life?